I had an epiphany last night...
I never saw the "pattern" with any of the guys I've ever been in a relationship with until last night. Sad, that it took me this long to fully understand the real problem. A background: I've only had 3 actual "relationships" over the years. And I can now break them down as to what went wrong: #1 moved away but upon getting involved years later, he was still emotionally unavailable; #2 ended up living together but I think he was still fucked up from a past breakup and thus emotionally unavailable, too; #3 was one of those "What was I thinking?!" low self-esteem inspired "maybe I should open my mind" relationships. I have since recovered, thank god. Fast forward a year or two and what do we have? More emotional unavailability!! And it's not even really the fault of these guys I take an interest in, it really has to be something wrong with me as to why I'm attracted to them. (Oh wait, no, it's all them if you think about it because the only reason they're still single is because they're emotionally unavailable to begin with and can't make a relationship last anyway.) But I am happy that my most recent emotionally unavailable guy made me realize this. ALL MEN ARE EVIL!! Suck it up, boys. She dumped you for a reason. You should thank yourself you're not with the bitch anymore because it obviously wasn't meant to be.

Which brings me to this other dilemma I have in face of this new information: Since I am not willing to go down that road of "men who are still in love with their ex (or themselves)" again, I'm wondering if perhaps I should be more open to other possibilities which have recently presented themselves to me? I mean, why be emotionally unavailable myself? I must've given that guy at the bar my number for a reason since I'm not so forthcoming to everyone with that kind of info, so maybe I should stop hemming and hawing and just agree to meet up with him again.